GOP and Gay Marriage- a conservative case for gay marriage

Could it be? Possibly so! A sea change coming in the GOP over gay marriage, watch out! I mentioned this not long ago, but the articles keep coming, and in the Huffington Post, no less, an article by Sam Stein:
Steve Schmidt, Former McCain Campaign Chief, On Mehlman Fundraiser: Same-Sex Marriage Becoming Conservative Cause

From the article:
If anything, the hostility between the social conservative element of the party and those less adherent to that doctrine is already palpable. As one prominent Republican who supports gay rights put it:

“Possibly, the socially conservative elements in the party are taking a back seat, and the more libertarian side is coming to power. Here — think there is a growing mass of people in Republican politics who are fundamentally sick and tired about being lectured to about morality and how to live your life by a bunch of people who have been married three or four times and are more likely to be seen outside a brothel on a Thursday night than being at home with their kids… There is a fundamental indecency to the vitriol and the hatred directed against decent people because of their sexuality. People have reached a critical mass with this…”

And here, Steve Schmidt on gay marriage as a conservative cause: “There is a strong conservative case to be made in favor of gay marriage,” The former McCain campaign manager and fellow same-sex marriage fundraiser Steve Schmidt told the Huffington Post on Tuesday. “Marriage is an institution that strengthens and stabilizes society. It is an institution that has the capacity to bring profound joy and happiness to people and it is a matter of equality and keeping faith of one of the charters of the nation, the right to live your life.”

Well, I agree. And, ironically, many “queer radicals” would also agree that gay marriage is too “conservative” of a cause and that their attention is better spent fomenting class and racial unrest, in other words, attempting to create “social justice” by redistributing wealth one way or another. And, ultimately, destroying marriage and the bonds of blood and legal family, replacing them with “chosen family” or maybe, just the latest “community” struggle or trend. I see the shallowness and complete bankruptcy of that approach to life, having lived it long enough to see where it leads – just about nowhere. Destruction and – destruction. Oh, I love my “community” as much as anyone else, but I wouldn’t expect them to save me from a fire or from drowning, so contentious they are and so driven by ego and political game playing. Other queer radicals worry they’ll become assimilated, and what would life be like without a chip on your shoulder? Without feeling special because you are in a victim group?

So, yes, in some respects, gay marriage or legal partnership, is a conservative cause and possibly one whose time has come. It is also a libertarian cause in that, as the above states, it’s time to get government not just out of the bedroom, but also out of the marriage ceremony!

Possibly, everyone should have civil unions gay or straight and leave the marrying to your church or pastor or rabbi or imam or priestess. Or possibly, everyone should just get married if they wish, and who actually cares once it is said and done? I kind of doubt it will make that much difference to hets, once it actually happens.

I feel that marriage should be strengthened if anything – how about some “no-fault” divorce? Maybe, well maybe not – but it is something to chew on and consider.

As a man who is of transsexual background, I can actually get married legally as a heterosexual. So, gay marriage is not really my issue. However, gay marriage being legal would protect me in the odd event that my legal heterosexual marriage was challenged for some reason by family, or otherwise — in a divorce or in the event of the death of my wife. In that dire case, at the hands of unscrupulous people, I could have legal issues on my hands. With gay marriage, my gender or biological sex, will not be an issue. As it stands now, I might win, and I might lose. And, while I am certainly man enough (!) to withstand most scrutiny, no one knows how these things will turn out.

Of course, I have gay friends who wish to be married and I do not feel it is my place to deny them that right and privilege.

Of course, with privilege comes responsibility and when the time for gay divorce comes for some, there may be some regretting! But, at least, they will have had the chance to live out their happiness and forge that bond – or not.

This is all very interesting, and certainly it bears watching, this dance of conservatives in the GOP with gay marriage.

What is interesting to me is that most of the people I know getting married now are trans men with women in what could be seen as non-traditional heterosexual marriages (legal), or gay and lesbian people (trans or not) who are legally able to get married because they live somewhere that this is possible. . My het non-trans friends tend to stay as far away from marriage as they possibly can, and they are nearly against it, as though it is an old-fashioned and embarrassing heirloom that they don’t wish to be associated with. Possibly, gay marriage will make marriage trendy again, cool again, or at least, interesting once more.